June Focus of the Month | Expansion

We just started talking about EXPANSION and already so many questions and thoughts have come up. Things like... considering the balance between expansion and contraction... is empathy expansion or contraction or both?... If I am going to expand, first I need to locate myself... Is meditation expansive? This month is going to be interesting!

May Focus of the Month | Love

Inspired by our book club reading (Bell Hooks, All About Love: New Visions) we will spend May reflecting on Love. A few thoughts on love from the book, "The lack of an ongoing public discussion about the practice of love in our culture and in our lives means that we still look to books as a primary source of guidance and direction... The truth is, far too many people in our culture do not know what love is. And this not knowing feels like a terrible secret, a lack that we have to cover up... To begin by always thinking of love as an action rather than a feeling is one way in which anyone using the word in this manner automatically assumes accountability and responsibility... When we are loving we openly and honestly express care, affection, responsibility, respect, commitment, and trust." We will engage in discussion to explore these and other thoughts, let's see where it takes us. The focus on Love is also a good opportunity to practice some loving-kindness meditation!

April Focus of the Month | Mind Your Own Business #2

We covered a lot of ground with this FOM. Starting with some resistance to the mantra "Mind Your Own Business". Many people had a reaction, feeling like it was harsh or scolding based on their past experience with this phrase. After some time I got reports of this old pattern dissolving and an opportunity for thoughtful contemplation arising.

We contemplated and talked about the meaning of "minding". One person suggested it's like "minding the store" - another "tending to" - and another talked about "taking care of". Then came some discussion of what is our "own business". Everyone pretty much agreed that taking good care of our bodies and minds falls solidly in the category of "Minding Our Own Business". But what in the external world is our business? With this questions we circled back to where we started with the Eckhart Tolle quote, suggesting that if we work on evolving our internal world, taking care of the external world will happen naturally.

With a month of contemplation behind me, I have a new understanding of this quote. I believe Eckhart Tolle is referring to an expanded sense of self (the opposite of an inflated sense of self). As I work on bringing balance to my internal world through the practice of yoga (meditation, daily mindfulness, movement, breathe awareness), my sense of self expands and simultaneously what is my "business" expands. Because this expansion is born out of mindfulness, I don't need to subscribe to or create any rules about what is or isn't my business. I simply keep paying attention, taking care of the internal, working on being mindful; and then the external, the knowing how to respond to the world in each moment, more and more, begins to fall into place.

April Focus of the Month | Mind Your Own Business #1

I'm told that whenever anybody asked, Ananda Ashram Founder, Shri Brahmananda Sarasvati (Guruji) for a mantra, he always gave the same one; "mind your own business". This can be interpreted and used in so many ways, all of them really useful. Meditation is one really good way to get good at minding our own business. We will discuss this and other thoughts as we explore and unpack this mantra throughout April. This quote from Eckhart Tolle is a good place to start, it captures the spirit of Guruji's mantra clearly and concisely - "Be at least as interested in what goes on inside you as what happens outside. If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place."

March Focus of the Month | Peaceful Warrior

We say we want peace in the world, but we are not each peaceful ourselves. My teacher Babaji talks about this state of confusion: thinking that the external world is where we will find peace, believing that changing things externally is the path to freedon. If this person would did this, if this situation was different, if this person didn't do this, if this group would just be more... or less... This is how the dialogue goes for most of us. And so we circle around and around, never getting much closer to peace (internally or externally).

I think we look to the external world first because it seems easier; we look to the external world because it is so challenging to look internally. Our internal worlds are filled with unease, messiness and parts of ourselves that we don't want to see. In comes the Peaceful Warrior! This archetype is often used in yoga teachings because it takes a warriors dedication, determination and patience to be aware of our internal world, allow for it all and let it go.

The practice of yoga helps us cultivate this warrior like dedication, determination and patience. It gives us tools and weapons to use: yoga postures, breathing exercises, meditation, mantra and chanting to name a few. For example, I'm feeling uneasy as I'm driving to meet someone, I chant OM. I notice that I'm hunched over and tensing my jaw as I'm washing the dishes, I take a few conscious exhale breaths. I'm comparing my triangle pose to my neighbor on the mat next to me, I silently repeat the mantra, "mind your own business". Each time I engage in one of these practice, little by little i move in the direction of peace. A true, lasting and unshakeable Peace; untouched by the external world.

February Focus of the Month | Division

A word that conjures up many thoughts. And not all good. However, I believe that whatever exists in our reality exists for a reason, that is, it is there to serve some purpose. Division is no different. For example, if the concept of oneness is too big for us to conceive then division helps us to see the universe in ways that we can. If oneness exists, if in fact there is a way to understand the universe as operating on this level, it is beyond my comprehension right now. Thus understanding that a divide does exist between me and the refrigerator is truly useful, for without it I would just be labeled as crazy.

This word can be explored from the all too obvious social constructs that we see so clearly in the world today, but also from a more traditional yogic place of how we divide mind and body. Perhaps if we can safely explore the divide then we can also unify and begin to see the whole - mind & body.

January Focus of the Month | How Can I Help You?

A simple question perhaps, but if it was it wouldn’t be our focus of the month. The focus of the month is about looking at something deeper. Getting past the initial thoughts, attitudes, judgements and finding more meaning. It is the mindfulness practice, something which we cultivate with each movement, breadth, and moment of stillness, but applied to our intellect. What thoughts come up as we consider asking and being asked the question: How can I help you?